Careful about complaining

Ever notice that complaints have a way of turning into reality, whether or not they are real at the time? Likewise, positive comments have a way of turning things around. It’s almost as though words pave the way for things to happen. 

Take the pink elephant...ok so now you can't stop thinking of a pink elephant. Say something negative and that's what we think about. Say something positive and that's our mental fuel. Looking to inspire others? watch those words and especially those actions and non-verbal mannerisms. Looking to build confidence? watch those complaints. Looking to fix problems? Invite your team to take a look under the hood so they can participate in real fixes, not the superficial stuff that just leaves them scratching their heads and wondering what's really going on. 

People are sophisticated enough to know that others often speak in code. Reconsider hiding behind decoy words. At any rate, what's the point in complaining if it does not get you closer to your desired outcome? That's what therapy is for. Every action, every word spoken, every word unspoken creates a reaction. Honesty, giving the benefit of the doubt, focusing on good attitudes and desired outcomes, asking good questions and then giving others the opportunity to offer real input without quick judgment will give a good snapshot of where things really are. Wouldn't that be more helpful than just sounding off?